I was watching TV at work. And what was on, was Bridal March. It seemed so simple, doesn't it?? You find your happily ever after and create forever. Well, at least you hope to do so.
When I was younger, I used love being in weddings, though I don't attend many. Weddings held in western styles would attract me most. With the gowns and lovely music and all those happy faces, it's just infectious. My mom and dad had a grand wedding too. They keep their albums nice and tight. =)
But I see weddings differently now. Know why? Because when I see a couple tying a knot, one question pops up. Forgive me for being straightforward, but I'd be wondering, "How long would the marriage last?"
To hold a relationship together takes much more than just a mere effort of giving and taking, and tolerating. It tests your patience through the roughest times and keeps your feet on the ground whenever you feel like throwing a tantrum. It's the effort taken to forgive and forget, and above all, to communicate not in the most effective way, but in the way that works best for each couple, because no one couple is the same in the world, and one way of communication may work better than the other for that one particular couple, right???
Know why I love my job??? It's because of all the different people I meet everyday. It brings such pleasure and joy to me to have just random conversations and well, some heartfelt ones too. I get to meet people with different characters, and always learn from the output from these people whom most, who comes to my centre, I consider successful. There was this one man in his 60s, though, that planted a deeper footprint in my head.
He came to accompany his wife for her medical check-up. Yeaps, ACCOMPANY his wife. A very friendly person he was. I was surprised because a comprehensive medical check-up would take up to 3 hours of diverse and particular tests, and yet he has all that patience to be with her. While I was conversing with him, I told him I admired the amount of care he has for his wife and he told me that he goes shopping with her too. At the time they just returned from Paris for a vacation. And I added and said, "Uncle I hope that if I ever have the blessing to reach your age, I would have a hubby that would still hold my hand and accompany me for check-ups like this." He laughed.
He smiled and said that life is short. Then he told me that love is not an easy thing, but with loads of patience and preserverence, that it would somehow prevail anyways. He exclaimed that it was never always a sunny day. Then he said, if ever he felt like letting go, he would recall of those difficult times when he courted her and wanted so much for her to be his. He would think of all the miles he had to endure, all the relentless waiting process, and all the hardships eventually strengthened their relationship, and as they left the centre, they left hand in hand, and it was a beautiful sight. =)
But things are different now as compared to then. Gone were the days where raring chickens and growing potatoes in the backyard would suffice. Technology has permanently altered the universe, and it leaves such a deep impact in our lives. During those times, efforts of courtship were more 'tedious', I must say, where loads of patience is needed. During the olden days, our grandparents used to write to each other to express their missing for one another, and it would take days or perhaps weeks to get a reply. Not to mention the existence of WW, which makes it all the more difficult. But now, a SIMPLE sms or e-mail makes everything more convenient, thus leading to relationships being less valuable. Don't you agree???
Why do u think that most marriages fail nowadays, with the divorce rates being 8 out of 10 married couples?? Is it because of the insufficient time spent with each other? Or perhaps after a time duration that a couple have been together did they realise that they are far from compatible with each other? Well that's not right either, because most young couples now live together before settling down for good, and because our grandparents may come from an arranged marriage, yet still their marriages prevail. Fidelity issues? Many. Work commitments?? Maybe. Monetary problems? Most of them. Problems seem overwhelming. My friend's sister spent a fortune for her wedding and alas, the marriage didn't even last six months!
So do you think couples that love each other until the very end deserve a level of respect and admiration? Yes. That is why I love the sight of old couples in the street still holding each other arm to arm, with smiles on their faces and happiness gleaming from their wrinkled eyes, whether their seating on a bench or walking slowly down the street, because that is already very hard to come by. I think it's very sweet. Perhaps, with God willing, one day I'll be able to have that too. Now that, is what I would call "happily ever after"...
lotsa love.
When I was younger, I used love being in weddings, though I don't attend many. Weddings held in western styles would attract me most. With the gowns and lovely music and all those happy faces, it's just infectious. My mom and dad had a grand wedding too. They keep their albums nice and tight. =)
But I see weddings differently now. Know why? Because when I see a couple tying a knot, one question pops up. Forgive me for being straightforward, but I'd be wondering, "How long would the marriage last?"
To hold a relationship together takes much more than just a mere effort of giving and taking, and tolerating. It tests your patience through the roughest times and keeps your feet on the ground whenever you feel like throwing a tantrum. It's the effort taken to forgive and forget, and above all, to communicate not in the most effective way, but in the way that works best for each couple, because no one couple is the same in the world, and one way of communication may work better than the other for that one particular couple, right???
Know why I love my job??? It's because of all the different people I meet everyday. It brings such pleasure and joy to me to have just random conversations and well, some heartfelt ones too. I get to meet people with different characters, and always learn from the output from these people whom most, who comes to my centre, I consider successful. There was this one man in his 60s, though, that planted a deeper footprint in my head.
He came to accompany his wife for her medical check-up. Yeaps, ACCOMPANY his wife. A very friendly person he was. I was surprised because a comprehensive medical check-up would take up to 3 hours of diverse and particular tests, and yet he has all that patience to be with her. While I was conversing with him, I told him I admired the amount of care he has for his wife and he told me that he goes shopping with her too. At the time they just returned from Paris for a vacation. And I added and said, "Uncle I hope that if I ever have the blessing to reach your age, I would have a hubby that would still hold my hand and accompany me for check-ups like this." He laughed.
He smiled and said that life is short. Then he told me that love is not an easy thing, but with loads of patience and preserverence, that it would somehow prevail anyways. He exclaimed that it was never always a sunny day. Then he said, if ever he felt like letting go, he would recall of those difficult times when he courted her and wanted so much for her to be his. He would think of all the miles he had to endure, all the relentless waiting process, and all the hardships eventually strengthened their relationship, and as they left the centre, they left hand in hand, and it was a beautiful sight. =)
But things are different now as compared to then. Gone were the days where raring chickens and growing potatoes in the backyard would suffice. Technology has permanently altered the universe, and it leaves such a deep impact in our lives. During those times, efforts of courtship were more 'tedious', I must say, where loads of patience is needed. During the olden days, our grandparents used to write to each other to express their missing for one another, and it would take days or perhaps weeks to get a reply. Not to mention the existence of WW, which makes it all the more difficult. But now, a SIMPLE sms or e-mail makes everything more convenient, thus leading to relationships being less valuable. Don't you agree???
Why do u think that most marriages fail nowadays, with the divorce rates being 8 out of 10 married couples?? Is it because of the insufficient time spent with each other? Or perhaps after a time duration that a couple have been together did they realise that they are far from compatible with each other? Well that's not right either, because most young couples now live together before settling down for good, and because our grandparents may come from an arranged marriage, yet still their marriages prevail. Fidelity issues? Many. Work commitments?? Maybe. Monetary problems? Most of them. Problems seem overwhelming. My friend's sister spent a fortune for her wedding and alas, the marriage didn't even last six months!
So do you think couples that love each other until the very end deserve a level of respect and admiration? Yes. That is why I love the sight of old couples in the street still holding each other arm to arm, with smiles on their faces and happiness gleaming from their wrinkled eyes, whether their seating on a bench or walking slowly down the street, because that is already very hard to come by. I think it's very sweet. Perhaps, with God willing, one day I'll be able to have that too. Now that, is what I would call "happily ever after"...
Be yourself, because the people who mind don't matter, and the people that matter, don't mind"-Dr. Seuss
lotsa love.
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